How you think that things would
have turned out differently? What played? Time ? Circumstances? People? May be,
but the truth is you cannot control all these things , you can’t rule time, you
can’t make circumstances and you cannot change people. But what you can
actually and totally do is your Effort . The Effort to make things go your way
Such an idealistic thought right
, I mean who doesn’t know this? It is something straight out of the Book.
I am not against it , I mean I really
appreciate it and I do remember watching a movie where a couple was breaking up
and finally when the guy lands in front of the girl’s house , he meets her
father and tells him that he is ready to do everything to win her back . You know
what that Father said, “Son, You don’t have to everything you just have to do
whatever it takes”. I was taken aback by the simplicity of the wisdom of the
Father. The dialogue was really Bang On , an “A Pointer”.
But and yes my friends there is a
but in the situation, what these wise movie fathers or uncles (advisers) do not
know is how to keep the conviction of reaching your goal alive? Its not like
clearing an IAS, IES exam because the goals there are static but families and
relations or people for that matter are not static entities. And because they
are not static entities they respond back to your efforts (or whatever you do)
or in the worst case do not respond at all.
If they respond back favourably like in the case of the movie (well yea
he did win the girl back) you are a winner , if they respond negatively that
also paves your path to your further actions, like the father said do whatever it takes it
helps you plan what you should do and what you shouldnt, but if they do not
respond at all my friends that is where you have the biggest problem.
Now, How do you know that whatever you have been
doing is right or wrong and that you need to change it? You don’t. But you
still chose to believe in yourself , initially it’s a good belief , it’s a source
of your encouragement , its your faith that you know that whatever you have
been doing is right. But how long do you think is it going to last , this
belief , this blind faith. How long do you think you can continue to assume the
other people’s reaction , wish , concurrence or non concurrence and then base
your further encouragement on your assumptions. Not long. It hits you and then you realize that while everything
else has been in a static mode (non motion, non reaction) you like a child kept
on clinging to the situation all by yourself without any real encouragement or
support. To me my friends this is where your sincere effort should end. Stop
the parade. Because even if you end up having it somehow this realization that
you were in it all by yourself is going to take a hit again and you will lose
the charm of the entire thing , you may have it , you will keep it but you may
not appreciate it as much as it did not appreciate you in your struggle.
Its good you know, being self aware , being cent percent sure of
your choices , being able to put your efforts for them but believe me not
everything is worth going crazy. So stop giving yourself a hard time and move
on because as I always say;
A new idea a new feel in an unknown
place and an unknown street,
All strangers around but what
can they really see? You are as happy as you choose to be.
Signing off
NEHA CHAUHAN
